The Only Opinion That Counts

How many times have you asked someone which dress or shoes to wear, only to pick the opposite of what they choose? It’s not that we don’t trust our friends’ choices; it’s that we don’t trust our choices.  This means we lack the confidence to follow our own instincts, and our knowledge of common sense. We’ve all done it at one point in our lives, and while choosing short hair or long hair will not usually lead to catastrophic consequences, there are times when indecisiveness can hold us back.  

            In October of 2012 I began my PHD studies at an online university. I told myself that I’d take two years off after I completed my Master’s before I went back. Then I had a baby in the interim; for the longest time I went back and forth with when would be a good time since life had thrown me some surprises. Well, after speaking to the admissions counselor for the second time in a year, I was seriously feeling like I should take on this next challenge. Still, I asked other people, many of whom only reminded me about the arduous journey that would lie ahead. Now I was second guessing myself; I thought about maybe putting it off for another year, or two.

            I completed the application with enthusiasm, but even after getting accepted, I procrastinated when it came to filling out for financial aid. Once I received my award letter, I found myself stalling again to press the ACCEPT button. It was only after I heard that lovely inner voice of mine scream loudly, “What are waiting for? Do it!”  It was then that I finally felt comfortable with my decision, and the consequences and rewards that would come with it. Two years later, my coursework is done. 

            The funny thing is, I knew all along that this was my dream and I wanted it. I found that when I go with my gut on the bigger choices, it generally tends to work to my advantage. That’s not to say that I don’t think critically; I’m just realizing that over thinking can have far worse results sometimes than acting impulsively. What is the lesson in all of this?  Be decisive…YOU KNOW BEST WHEN IT COMES TO YOU!