Change is beautiful...but difficult

     Just because I’ve been friends with someone for 15 or 20 years, doesn’t mean I’ll be friends with them forever, or that I  feel obligated to remain friends. You can become family, sometimes long distance family. In other words, I still love you, and if need me I’ll be there, but we no longer share things like common interests, and we may be at different places in our lives. And in some cases, we cannot even be that. I can still love you, but our friendship has diminished because it has been uneven….I have been the one to call, invite, support, listen, and you haven’t. Now I am okay with breaking away from people who I care about for my own piece of my mind and personal growth.

      I never thought I could make friends as an adult because I was all set with the ones I meet as a preteen. While there are a few of them I am still friends and BEST friends with, over the last few years I have come to love, trust, and become true friends with some wonderful women who have put equal effort, time, live and support into creating  a friendship with me and I’m excited about it. 

            Another frustrating lesson about change is:

                      

                          if not me, then who? 

        So many people complain about the situations at work at home, and in society, but that’s where it ends. They do nothing about it. Sometimes I ask myself, why are you always the one to want to start a revolution, to call attention to (excuuuuse my language, but there really is no better word…. bullsh*t? Is there something wrong with me because when I see something unjust, or illogical, I need to speak on it to the powers that be, create an action plan, or urge them to create a plan?  NOPE! There’s nothing wrong with it. The reality is if I don’t, and if all of the other people created to be agents of change don’t live out that purpose, then the world will be even more screwed up.

        It took a while to get that hang of this. I learned along the way that you have to do your homework before you go complain; understand how things work. Then you need to offer a solution or ideas, because no one wants to hear you say what’s wrong if you don’t have insight on why it’s wrong and how it can be made better. The part that I am working on is ACCEPTING that other people are not going to share my passion, my duty, to be an agent of change. Some people do not realize they can be a change agent, and some people are just content with the status quo. And while they may hate how things go at the office, at home, in their cities, they do nothing but keep complaining about it to people who also complain and do nothing. Sigh.

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